Love Is Forever Young

PC/Tues.4 February 2014

Pictures of Yi Gang & Liu Xiaoqing 

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Would you believe that marriages are made in heaven?

That love knows no age barrier?

They also say that love is blind

Or falling in love at first sight.

These days stranger are happening

between a man & woman, man & man even woman & woman!

Love not only makes the world go round,

it sets the world spinning, upside down & topsy turvy.

And these days strange events are happening not in Hollywood

but in China – where all things are possible!

Unlike in the Middle East & the Muslim world or India & Pakistan where strange marriages

are common such child brides & grand old men, China is setting up new trend among the celebrities & the wealthy.

Liu Xiaoqing & Yi Gang were recently married in San Francisco.

Would you agree they are a handsome & matching couple?

But be prepared to be shocked by some revealing facts:

  • when Liu Xiaoqing, an actress & business woman, was 33, Yi Gang, a China’s national badminton star, was merely a one year old child.

  • Yi Gang was an ardent fan of the famed Liu Xiaoqing in her prime years. It’s claimed that he was wooing her for the past 20 years.

  • The bride in this case is even older than her in-laws. I wonder what would be the accorded greeting & respect. This could be very tricky in China where honour & age respect are traditionally practised.

  • NOW, she is 60 & he is only 28! A difference of 32 years!

It’s sensational! Unbelievable!

A fairyland story!

Beloved Infidel of the extreme!

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Is it possible for a 60 year-old thrice-married woman to marry a handsome 28 year-old Chinese badminton star, who is himself from a rich family background?

Perhaps this is because she looks more like 30 than 60!  I guess anything is possible in China nowadays.(我想现今在中国什么都行得通)

She’s ageless since her famous acting days. Imagine her flawless skin, unwrinkled face & neck                                                  

  Though Liu Xiaoqing is 60? She looks like in her 30s!

Yi Gang comes from good family background, his family is wealthy. Yi Gang is not after her wealth nor is she after his.

Love is true & forever young. Perhaps they were destined for each other. Marriages are made in heaven. It’s commonly known to have traditional marriages in China on the basis of betrothal between friends even before birth.

My Bitter Life . . . My Better Half

LOL Just divorced. And no, that's not my car.
Image via Wikipedia

 By P Chong                           Friday, 9 September 2011

LOL. Just Divorced. But no. That’s my car!”

 There are always problems in life

R.I.P.

Whatever your status, rich or poor

Powerful or meek

Healthy or sick.

Only time that life bears no problem

Is on the day of your horizontal rest

And that rest is eternal!

So let’s live & let live

Living each day to our best

By changing the way we look at things

Amusingly, life does provide its funny side . . .

Every Wife is a “Mistress” for her Husband. “Miss” for one hour & “Stress” for the rest of the 23 hours!

The are 2 times when a Man doesn’t understand a Woman. Before Marriage and After Marriage.

My Husband and I Divorced over Religious Differences. He thought he was God, and I didn’t. 


Marriage Is like a Public Toilet.Those waiting outside are desperate to get in & those inside are desperate to come out.

Why Were Hurricanes Usually Named After Women?Because when they arrive, they’re wet and wild, 
but when they go, they take your house and car … 

A Man Goes To The Wizard To Ask If He Can Remove A Curse He Has Been Living With For The Last 40 Years. 
The Wizard says, “Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you.
” The man says without hesitation, “I now pronounce you Man And Wife.”

Husband Searching Keywords on Google `How to Tackle Wife? Google Search Result, “Still Searching.” 


THOUGHT FOR THE DAY . . .

Women are like phones: 
They like to be held, 
talked to and 
touched often. 
But push the wrong button
and you’re disconnected . . . 


Romantic SMS Romantic . . . SMS She sends the following message: 
My love if you’re sleeping, send me your dreams. 
If you’re smiling, send me your smile. 
If you’re crying, send me your tears. 
I love you. 
He Replied: I’m in the toilet. What do I send?

World’s Largest Family

Indian man has 39 wives, 94 children, 33 grandchildren.

100-Room Mansion to house the Family

 

Five of the wives

We have heard of Emperors and Maharajahs having concubines and harems, but here’s Ziona Chana, a 66-year-old Indian man who has 39 wives, 94 children, 14 daughters-in-law and 33 grandchildren, is probably the head of the world’s biggest family, according to Reuters.

The big family lives in a four-storey mansion with 100 rooms in a village in Mizoram, northeast India. Chana’s wives and children live in different rooms but share one kitchen.

Chana said that he in his younger days once married 10 women in only one year. He enjoys his own double bed while his wives have to make do with communal dormitories. He keeps the youngest women near to his bedroom with the older members of the family sleeping further away – and there is a rotation system for who visits Mr Chana’s bedroom.

He considered himself a lucky man since he is given so many people to look after. Mr Chana told the Sun: ‘Today I feel like God‘s special child. He’s given me so many people to look after. I consider myself a lucky man to be the husband of 39 women and head of the world’s largest family.’

Although Chana has already had a 167-member family, he still would like to expand it and “go to any extent to marry. ”To expand my sect, I am willing to go even to the U.S. to marry,” he said. One of his sons insisted that Mr Chana, whose grandfather also had many wives, marries the poor women from the village so he can look after them.

Rinkmini, one of Mr Chana’s wives who is 35 years old, said: ‘We stay around him as he is the most important person in the house. He is the most handsome person in the village.

She says Mr Chana noticed her on a morning walk in the village 18 years ago and wrote her a letter asking for her hand in marriage.

Another of his wives, Huntharnghanki, said the entire family gets along well. The family system is reportedly based on ‘mutual love and respect’ And Mr Chana, whose religious sect has 4,000 members, says he has not stopped looking for new wives.

The family is organised with almost military discipline, with the oldest wife Zathiangi organising her fellow partners to perform household chores such as cleaning, washing and preparing meals.

One evening meal can see them pluck 30 chickens, peel 132lb of potatoes and boil up to 220lb of rice.

Chana is also the head of a local Christian religious sect which allows polygamy.

One of his sons insisted that Mr Chana, whose grandfather also had many wives, marries the poor women from the village so he can look after them.

Source: China Daily


The Chinese Tradition of Marriage

By P Chong                                                                               Sat. 4 September 2010

The Chinese Character for Double Happiness

There are three events in life that the Chinese really celebrate:

  • marriage celebration
  • the birth of a child (full moon celebration)
  • Spring Festival (Chinese New Year)
  • Birthday celebrations are not a norm, except the landmark ages of 60, 70, 80 & all that . . . Celebration on the negative side will be in the event of “untimely” demise of the dear departed including Qingming Festival (All Souls’Day).

Red is Auspicious

Without order chaos exists. Even mechanical things work on a system, from a simple clock to the planetary system of the universe. If any part of the system should break down, the whole mechanism stops to function.

By the same token, it is true to say of the human society. It can only function properly with a system or order, otherwise chaos will prevail. This is a verified truism as exemplified by the way Chinese society is structured & conducted with particular reference to the question of marriage, which reflects the great importance attached to the concept of the family unit. The way the Chinese address their nation as their “national family” bespeaks the significance of the basic family as its core. Thus the way the individuals conduct themselves can make or break the hierarchy.

There is much to be said about arranged marriages in those days. Whatever your modern misgivings with ideals of love & romance, these marriages did come with problematic packages. The go-in-between and both the in-laws first investigated all details of the young man and lady in respect of compatibility with particular reference to their “animals” of birth, as whether it’s the year of the rat, cow, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, goat monkey, chicken dog and pig. It’s astrology of an unique kind. The West would refer it as consulting the stars. There is much truth in that the characteristics of the personality do spell out clearly by the animal year of birth. Taking such precautionary steps avoid the pitfalls of marriage.

Talking of surprised or problematic packages in marriages, brings me to mind of a fictional story. It could well be true beyond your wildest imagination . . . it’s so funny, ridiculous & amazingly laughable.

This is seriously Funny . . .

Two men met at a bus stop and struck up a conversation. One of them kept complaining of family problems. Finally, the other man said: “You think you have family problems? Listen to my situation.”

“A few years ago I met a young widow with a grown-up daughter. We got married and got myself a stepdaughter. Later, my father married my stepdaughter. That made my stepdaughter, my stepmother. And my father became my stepson. Also, my wife became mother-in-law of her father-in-law.”

Much later the daughter of my wife, my stepmother, had a son. This boy was my half-brother because he was my father’s son. But he was also the son of my wife’s daughter which made him my wife’s grand-son. That made me the grand-father of my half-brother.”

This was nothing until my wife and I had a son. Now the half-sister of my son, my stepmother, is also the Grandmother. This makes my father, the brother-in-law of my child, whose stepsister is my father’s wife, I am my stepmother’s brother-in-law, my wife is her own child’s aunt, my son is my father’s nephew, and I AM MY OWN GRANDFATHER!”

And you think you have FAMILY PROBLEMS!!!”

Moral: Order prevails, otherwise chaos assails.

The Greatest Gift of Love


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Of all the gifts from God, the greatest is  Love. He shows it by sacrificing His only Son as our personal Saviour. In    God’s natural garden up north in wild Western Australia “wreath flowers” grow bountifully – in the shape of “heart”.

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Word for “Love”

The Chinese character of love “ai” interestingly is written traditionally with the radical “heart” right in its midst.

Symbolically, “heart” shows to be the essence of love.

Word for “Heart”

It’s believed that Singapore girls, when selecting a partner or contemplating marriage, take into consideration these Five Cs – Cash, Condominium, Car, Career and Character. Modern Singapore is so full of slogans, and more recently I heard that the Five Cs have given way to Five Bs – Bachelor, Bank Account, Boss, BMW and Bungalow. The order of priorities varies from individual to individual. Whatever they are, it’s essentially confined to materialism or tangible assets. Love and marriage is traded like in the stock market or the choice is likened to the auction where the highest bidder merits the prize.

Going by the above there’s no basis for a long and enduring partnership in marriage. Physical attraction and materialistic assets soon fade with the passing years. The bond of love breaks loose from its weakest link and the link of Five Cs or Five Bs is not strong to begin with. Fragile link leads to fragile relationship. Human relationship is without a shadow of doubt the most fragile, in that it is complicated by emotion. A house that is not built upon strong foundation soon collapses. The fire of love cannot burn indefinitely or brightly without the right fuel of marriage.

They say that love makes the world go round. Spinning round and round makes you dizzy with headache setting in as you sail through rough waters. Material things can dwindle with time or disappear through misfortune or poor management. For an enduring and lasting partnership, it calls for the right ingredients which are not provided for by the Five Cs or Five Bs. The greatest test of true love is through the test of time – what endures and what not.

_MG_0487Abundant “Wreath” Flowers growing in the wild of Western Australia


The marriage vows spell out “for better or for worse”. Sadly enough, the latter means absolutely nothing. It’s all a question of money. Oftentimes, money problem breeds marriage problems. Many seemingly good marriages have collapsed under the weight of financial struggle. One wonders the whereabouts of love, fresh air and sunshine and all those rosy promises of getting the moon and the stars and dying for each other. Evidently, all the heartaches are spelt out in the court of law or the mediator’s office in terms of property settlement. All other considerations are thrown out of the window.

The bond of love is only secured through the commitment of one for the other through all kinds of weather, rain or shine, stormy or calm. Commitment will take care of the Five Cs or Five Bs.. It seals the question of security, love, faith and hope – all vital ingredients that will withstand the test of time. Commitment takes care of the doom and gloom, war and peace, rain or shine, giving or taking, and unimaginable human problems. No more talk of complaints, criticism, or condemnation – all the negative ‘Cs’.

One good positive ”C” says it all for peace and harmony for always!

Paul Chong

Watch Out! Being Old & Disabled

Watch Out!

Being Old & Disabled

mr_six_contest_smallStill Spirited & Energetic?

It’s said don’t grow old, but grow up. Yet from my own personal observation, this phenomenon is hardly the case. You would expect that after years of togetherness as a couple, each partner in the relationship would become more caring for each other. Relationship can mellow and sweeten with the years or contrarily sour for all you care! It would be sad to see the latter happening.

Modern relationship is so fragile. Long established ones are rare. Surprisingly, especially going by Hollywood’s mode, you’ll find a few exceptions like Ronald & Nancy Reagan – best known actors for a sustaining relationship. Even then there’s the tint of shadow in the form of Jane Wyman.

flu seasonOld & Miserable – “I see not, I hear not, I speak not”!

I know of a nice Singapore family with a son confined to the wheelchair, and more recently a doctor friend of mine with multiple-systems atrophy, both suffering from abandonment by their partners. These are two paraplegic examples only – one still in the prime years and the other in the golden years of life. It’s all a question of “for better” certainly not “for worse” as spelt out in the marriage vow.

Alas where do we find romance lasting till the end! The musical strains of tears and stress through the years have but all disappeared. People still love to hear of a romantic story of courage without fear, of love with all the tears, of sharing and caring with the years. But they are not happening in real life. “What about me?” rather than “What about we?” Gross individualism predominates in all situations these days . . . my own car, my bank account, my social life, my this and that. The list is unending with the divorce lawyer laughing all the way to the bank.

40-animals-tendernessTenderness & Togetherness – Human Can Learn from the Birds

Don’t human beings care any more? Are we so devoid of feelings and emotion in the face of materialism? Don’t we ever going to consider negative consequences resulting from the fall-out?

I am not an expert to provide you with solutions.

I just provide you with thought provoking questions.

Your comments are most welcome.

Paul Chong