– By Paul Chong Friday, 6 November 2009

It’s in the formative years of a child that his roots grow deep & strong absorbing all the values & essence of life to later brave life’s stormy paths. In the process of growing up, the child, properly guided & motivated, will take on wings to fly . . . to soar to the sky!

Children are so delightful & precious – A nation’s treasure!

Proverbs 22:6 – “Point your kids in the right direction- when they’re old they won’t be lost.”

There’s an old Jesuit saying, “Give me a child . . . until he is seven, and I will give you the man”. What a verified truism. It displays a clear recognition that the earlier you can gain access to a child’s mind the stronger control you have over the formation of that child’s character and beliefs.

Personally, I can testify to that fact. I was educated in a Christian Brother’s Institution, and like those from the Convent School, we were much indoctrinated in the Catholic values of life. Till this day, I can still say my rosary or remembering all the Ten Commandments. During one of the religious retreats, I was almost swayed to join the Seminary. Such is the power of indoctrination.

That bundle of joy brought to you by the stock is a very precious bundle. He’s got to be well cared for, nurtured, guided – for his whole future lies in your hand.

The famous quote on children by Hodding Carter reads: “There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings.” A child who is loved unconditionally is a child with roots. He’ll stand the storm of life. He’ll take on wings if given self-worth, taught & encouraged to dream. If you give your child THE WILL to win, half the battle is already won.

Needless to say, an unguided child will find it hard to succeed in life & may even go down the evil ways.

This is by no means a lesson in children’s upbringing, but there are some basic fundamental things to always bear in mind:

• Having faith in the child – within him there lies the

  seed of greatness that must be given the chance to grow.

• Avoid criticism – a criticised child is likely to be negative.
• Encourage & motivate – to foster his full potential.

A child needs to feel love more than any other things. Money cannot buy love and resources will only be squandered. Your faith, trust & confidence in him will help him to perform & excel in life. Above all, inculcate the love of God in him. Love conquers all.

As readers of this blog, I am sure you have much to contribute. Your feedback & comments are most welcome.