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To those of us who are now in our twilight years, this is a worthwhile read … profound message from the famous novelist YANG JIANG (杨绛) written at age of 103. She passed away at age 105 on May 2016:*
*Below is her beautiful meaningful message 善待暮年
Be Kind to Twilight Years
From the first cry on coming to the earth till the hairs turn grey, the baggage of our journey through life has filled with all bitterness and sweetness as well as ups and downs. Next, how happy can we be on the path of our twilight years will depend on our physical mental condition.
Life’s glory and splendor are all behind us and we are now just going through the daily chores of keeping life going.
Once we yearned for a glamorous life, now we realize the most wonderful and beautiful scenery in life are moments of tranquility.
Do not anxiously wait for the visits of our children. They have their own lives to take care of; they are like tops being spun continuously, sandwiched between the young and old. The old one is the evening sun, whereas the young is the morning sun, and of course the young will get more attention; this is nature’s law. It is human race survival cycle and no one can defy it. Please remember: our children is always more busy than us.
In life whether it is husband and wife or parents and children , no matter how harmonious and how close they are, each one is unique and an independent entity. Therefore we need to learn to cope with loneliness by finding ways to console and cheer ourselves up when feeling lonely.
In reaching our golden age, we have our self esteem and graciousness just like the cycle of the four seasons, each has its own grace and beauty. Smile & enjoy each phase of life.
Twilight years is the beginning of a good phase in life. It is calm, peaceful, unhurried & joyful. We have to maintain peace, be less demanding, more accomodative & forgiving, not to over reeact when receiving attention of being ignored. To stay or to godoes not matter anymore. Keep smiling whyile moving ahead each day and be kind to ourselves.
Being honest & sincere will make friendships last. Do not expect a return on whatever you have given to others, after all, making others happy is life’s greatest achievement.